The more generations away from the family's emergence into the New World culture, the smaller the differences between Hispanic and other races.
Many modern Latinos have become mostly Americanized, but the typical contemporary Hispanic doesn't want to completely lose the connections to his or her culture.
Setting the personal qualities aside, any expatriate is also a vessel of beliefs, attitudes, customs, and mainly, surprises. After a few occasions, I asked her why she stared at me that way.
She smiled and said: “I just think it’s sweet the way you talk to your parents.
Canadian men are more politically correct on the outside perhaps, but not on the inside.
A Mexican man may just up and say what a Canadian (or American or European) man is thinking.
out there, so when you make dinner reservations for 8, you might want to tell her to meet you at 7 (just in case). Commit these words to memory: "I'm on my way."No, no she's not.
On the plus side, if you're going to any Latin-specific events (her family's throwing a party, etc.), no one cares if you show up two hours after the specified time on the invitation. When she texts or calls you and says this, what she really means is, "I haven't gotten out of bed or showered yet, but I'm thinking about it."4. And don't ask, because that gets awkward really quickly. Don't be alarmed if she introduces you to her family (parents, grandparents, cousins, and all) seemingly early on. Yes, this is a bit contradictory to the above point, and it may even seem a little unfair, but that's just how it is. It's kind of cute that you want to be able to speak to her in Spanish, but also kind of annoying at the same time when all she wants to do is enjoy dinner.
Salsa Dance “Get a couple of basic salsa lessons – seriously,” he advised.
Don't call her 'spicy' or 'feisty.' Unless she uses those words to describe herself, in which case she may not mind if you do either. An ex-boyfriend once asked me if he could call me his "little tamale." I know I like to eat, but (a) no, and (b) WRONG COUNTRY DUDE. The sooner she gets you cleared by mami, papi, and the rest of the crew, the sooner she'll know whether she wants to keep you around or not. If you ask her to be a 1 at a wedding or big family affair too early on, she'll think you're getting serious, so if you're not, don't do this. A date's not the time to bust out the few phrases you remember from Spanish 101. But that said, if her family asks if you want to speak in Spanish while you're together, go for it. And if she's important to you, making a little effort goes a long way: It IS OK to ask questions or share a general interest in her culture or background; it's NOT OK to fetishize her or ask her "why Latinas always do [insert thing]?
If she has relatives, for example, who speak very little English who want to speak to you in Spanish, and you know some, it's OK to try and bridge that gap. As in, if something happens to you that you don't want anyone to know about, keep that shit locked down deep inside, because if you tell her, everyone else will know by the end of the day too. But on the bright side: There's special occasions, so don't bank on it! " or attribute her behavior to just "being Latina." Follow Alanna on Twitter.
Of course, cultural clashes can be a disheartening experience. As soon as I emigrated to the US, I dated an American girl.
But even if your relationship ends up in failure, down the line you will value what you learned. I frequently noticed her peculiar gesture whenever I talked to my parents on the phone.