But the more data we collected about men’s dating photo attractiveness, the more it became undeniable: Ok Cupid’s advice wasn’t raising men’s photo scores. In fact, users reported 3-5x (200-400%) more matches!
Russia is wildly acclaimed as the weirdest place on the planet and the way they try to find suitors online doesn’t help that reputation.
TL; DR: OKCupid’s study on male dating photos fails reproducibility If you’re a guy who uses online dating sites/apps, you’ve probably heard this one: don’t smile in your picture.
The post was called The 4 Big Myths of Profile Pictures.
Since Ok Cupid published their data in support of not smiling in pics, the tip has been quoted as gospel truth on dating advice blogs, PUA podcasts, dozens of dating subreddits, forums, everywhere.
And that's when they asked me the question that would change my online dating life: Can we see your profile and photos? I showed no personality and came off as self-absorbed and mindless. But resist the urge to hold up your phone, snap a picture and post it. Men don't want to be reminded of the competition when they are looking for women to date. DO post a shot of you looking fun and/or interesting. A picture of yourself holding a camera (if you're a photographer) or playing the guitar shows you have interests.
It shouldn't have been a surprise that the men who contacted me would be the same. What I learned is that there are three questions many men ask themselves when viewing your profile usually in this order: 1. At best you look ashamed to be online, at worst, like a crazy recluse with nobody willing to take your photo. Are you leaning against a wall with your butt sticking out? Also, don't post photos where you cut out your ex-boyfriend people can always tell. Another option is to post a photo where you're out with a friend (just one, not a crowd) looking happy and social.